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Old August 30th, 2011, 10:36 AM
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Re: Muslim wife searching for other 3 wives for her husband...

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I want to be a second, third, or fourth wife NYC, NJ, Or PA USA only

Assalamu Alaikum,

I am a 31 year old white Muslim revert. I want to be a second, third, or fourth wife only. I have my reasons why i do not want to be a first wife. I have green eyes and blonde hair. My skin is as white as milk. I am 5 feet and 1 inch tall. I am not thin and i am not fat. I am chubby. I am honest, loyal, loving, faithful, friendly, and god fearing. I want no problems with the other wives. I hope we can all get along as friends, Insha'allah. I can only marry someone in NYC, NJ, Or PA USA. I have my own health insurance so i do not need any. I am a housewife so i hope you can afford another wife. I am going to be honest right now. I can clean wonderfully but my cooking is not very good. I will never say no to my husband. I have 1 son that is almost 11 years old. He lives with his father but i see him 3 weekends out of the month. My e-mail is Laurenb0480@aol.com Please e-mail me if you are serious only. NYC,NJ,PA only! Thank you and Allah Hafiz!
Thank you. I never thought my luck will turn up like this. I am sending an e-mail to this lady as she seems to satisfy every criteria that I need

Except... what is a muslim revert
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apart from helping in cooking and ironing what else he want which makes a wife maid.
huh? Didnt get you.
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Thank you. I never thought my luck will turn up like this. I am sending an e-mail to this lady as she seems to satisfy every criteria that I need

Except... what is a muslim revert
I cant believe your luck either...she has 1 kid who is 11 years old and you have 11 kids who are all 1 year old...even the children(s) ages match...

this calls for you praying 5 times an hour facing the direction of 2gud's feet...

a muslim revert is someone who is reversing into islam I guess...going forward you go into other religions...if you are in reverse gear you go into Islam...
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I want someone who is beautiful at heart and appearance; should always keep up appearance and not look scruffy or shabby; someone who will be prepared to live according to Islam and Shariah.

I want someone who is preferably good at cooking. Should be willing to do cleaning ironing washing and all usual household chores and has a very high standard of personal hygiene and cleanliness and household cleanliness. I want my partner to iron all my clothes. and keep the wardrobes tidy and organised. I also dont like to sleep on bedsheets or bed linen that is not ironed, so my partner is expected to do this ironing. My partner must do at least 30 minutes a day of exercise to keep fit. My partner must not be accustomed to eating unhealthy or junk food.

Qualities I expressly dont seek: a person without manners, boring, argumentative, disrespectful, loud mouth, impolite, unrefined, untidy, gold digger, ungrateful, cheating, dishonest, unfaithful, rude, deceptive, backbiter, conniving, slanderer, or a liar, or spice girl type mentality, arrogant or someone who is boastful or full of pride.

I am straightforward in my dealings with people. I will treat my partner like a princess with total love, understanding, kindness and affection and likewise I expect the same from my partner. I am very easy to get along with and understanding and a good listener.
apart from highlighted in red things ... I think he is demanding any sane man will want in his partner... he ll get it or not that is not the question.

beautiful
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physically fit
understanding
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so thats why I said apart from help in food and ironing... he is not asking something having which ll make any woman .... a maid.
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Re: Muslim wife searching for other 3 wives for her husband...

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apart from highlighted in red things ... I think he is demanding any sane man will want in his partner... he ll get it or not that is not the question.

beautiful
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so thats why I said apart from help in food and ironing... he is not asking something having which ll make any woman .... a maid.
Agreed but the tone he employs will pretty much put off even a woman who would otherwise willingly do much of what he asked out of love and without being asked. He has acted detrimental to his cause by sounding so snobbish.
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Agreed but the tone he employs will pretty much put off even a woman who would otherwise willingly do much of what he asked out of love and without being asked. He has acted detrimental to his cause by sounding so snobbish.

thats for the education and above all... he is mozlem...
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Re: Muslim wife searching for other 3 wives for her husband...

This one from ShiaChat site, the peculiarity here is that these folks have two versions of marriage - Nikah (permanent) and Mut'ah (temporary). You would be amused to see their replies to this woman, who by the way is only unhappy because her husband is having sex with a woman he did not YET marry. She converted to Islam 3 years back.
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As Salaam Alaikum to all that read this post. I 'm the first wife and my husband has choses a co wife. I m having some problems with this. He has not married her yet, but they are spending the night together in a hotel alone. This is very hurtful to me because I ask him to wait until they are married before I have to start to share our time. Keep in mind I only found out about her a week ago by drving by a hotel and seen his car their. I was so hurt I havent been able to eat or sleep since this took place. some one plese help me understand. she has been spending time with my husband on some level since May 2011 and i just found out about her 8/23/11. in the above way. I dont think im being vauled and since Ive only been in the deen 3 years i have no clue if this is right please help someone with Quran or sunah referances to give be help
If he is committing adultery, then it is a grave sin, which if proven would be punishable by stoning as stated above. However, are you sure he hasn't performed a temporary marriage?

It's understandable that you are upset by all this, as you haven't been raised to believe that such behaviour is acceptable (and modern culture, Muslim or otherwise, definitely doesn't condone it), but provided your husband has some kind of marriage contract with the other woman (permanent or temporary), you have to understand that he isn't doing anything wrong. I would advise reading up on the lives of the Prophet (pbuh) and the Imams (as) to understand that polygamy is workable, and to pray to Allah (swt) for guidance. I would certainly not recommend divorcing someone over this (again, provided it's not adultery), although you should at all times insist on you Islamic rights as a wife. If these aren't been given to you, then divorce is a serious option.
I understand I guess my feeling are so raw that I dont want to say the wrong thing and make matter worst. I am not upsent about him taking a co wife its how I found out and if the act of ZIna has accured . that bring harm to our union and makes it hard for this to work as is should
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Re: Muslim wife searching for other 3 wives for her husband...

Qur'an mentions Jinns (demons) as being real and even educated Muslims believe in them! So here is a Jinn problem and its Islamic solution

Marriage & Jinn problems

Asalamu Alaykum, really needed some advice especially since I can't speak to my friends about my problems.

I'm 22 and so the time has arrived where my mother would like me to get married, but unfortunately I've been plagued by sihr and jinn problems. Since the age of 16 I've had black magic done to me by relatives. The reason I know it's black magic is because I've been to doctors numerous times and had various tests done over the past few years for non-specific symptoms and they've found nothing wrong. I always have ruqya done by an amil every year, only to get better for a few months and then for all the problems to return. We have cameras outside my house and have seen a certain relative carrying out a black magic ritual and burying a talisman in our front yard. Sadly I believe that nothing more can be done.

Unfortunately now I have a new jinn problem, where according to an amil I have a jinn who supposedly loves me. For the past 6 months I've had this meaningless hate for men, I feel nauseas over the thought of marriage and having a husband-wife relationship. The thoughts are so extreme that sometimes I think of mutilating myself so that no man can ever penetrate me, I know these thoughts are stupid. I have dreams where I always see this young man dressed in white telling me that he is waiting for me and to not get married. Alhumdulillah Allah has made me pretty, given me a good character as well as giving me the privilege to study a top course, so I have quite a few brothers interested for marriage, but whenever someone sends a proposal I feel sick and angry at the thought of marrying them. I really don't know what to do, my mother says that getting married is the solution because the jinn will leave. I would like to get married and have a family inshaAllah, but then I don't want to ruin my husband's life if the problem still continues after marriage. So should I consider getting married? Also I would not want to hide anything from my husband before marriage so how would I go about telling him such a big thing?

Sorry I know it's been a long read, but any help or advice would be really appreciated. Thank you in advance.

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Subhan'Allah sis

Try to find a good Aamil who will be willing to treat you and break the effects of the siihr.

Make lots of dua. Allah swt will bless you with a husband who is understanding of your situation.

Its probably best not to consider marriage for a while because it will have adverse effects. So best thing is to seek treatment for your situation first. The jinns just dont "leave" as your mum is suggested. Wouldnt life be simple if that was the case.

It probably isnt sufficient that you have ruqya done annually but really should consider being seen regularly and been treated properly with a proper diagnosis.

With sihr, the symptoms more often worsen when you start proper ruqya, in order to put you off continuing. Just perservere, and see it through. Insha'Allah ease is always at the heel of hardship, so hang in there!

Stay strong, very strong, and have a lot sabr. Dont give up hope in the mercy of Allah.

May Allah swt relieve you of your distress and cure all those who sufffer from the evil of sihr.



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This one from ShiaChat site, the peculiarity here is that these folks have two versions of marriage - Nikah (permanent) and Mut'ah (temporary). You would be amused to see their replies to this woman, who by the way is only unhappy because her husband is having sex with a woman he did not YET marry. She converted to Islam 3 years back.
People who are into polygamy have different mindset altogether. I cant find that thread by Shringary anymore but there he mentioned why and how a woman accepts another woman and 'share' her husband.
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can a woman do the same thing? mutah i mean, so when she screws around its not called adultery and she is not stoned by the pious men mutahs? just curios
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can a woman do the same thing? mutah i mean, so when she screws around its not called adultery and she is not stoned by the pious men mutahs? just curios

Yes, it is allowed for women too. Only it is not called mutah .. it is called peshaabah.
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Yes, it is allowed for women too. Only it is not called mutah .. it is called peshaabah.
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See how religious intolerance occurs in Muslim families. Religion for Muslim doesn't just limit to themselves but try to push others too.

Husband doesn't pray - ever.

As salaamualeikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.

I pray you are all in good health and high states of emaan.

I need some advice on how to improve a situation. My husband is a born-Muslim and I am a revert. He is a citizen in my country where we live. And has been since long before we met. Please keep in mind that my husband and I married later than is usual; I'm 32 and he is 34 - no children yet.

My husband doesn't pray or go to the mosque. He's never read the entire Quran. This year he fasted some of Ramadan for the first time in over 15 years - only because I asked him to. Furthermore, he complains about my time spent on the deen. I don't perform any sunnah acts in front of him (other than saying bismillah before I eat and giving preference to the right hand/foot as the situation demands, etc.); I try to pray fardh salat when he's busy with something and won't notice, so he won't become upset with me. He expects me to leave my prayers to do chores (even though salat takes less than 10 minutes including wudhu) and causes a fight every time we eat outside of the home since I greatly prefer to eat halaal.

Alhamdulilah, outside of Islam our marriage is good in many ways. We have a lot of love and respect for one another on matters concerning the dunya and we each work hard for our home and future inshallah. We are generally happy with one another, until the subject of religion comes up. We laugh and play and talk together on many topics without major fitnah. Basically, if it wasn't for the problem with the religion, we would have very few issues at all.

Before we wed, I understood that he was very devout at heart, but lazy in practice. I thought little of it at the time; I had thought that living with a practicing Muslim would bring him around. But it's been more than a year, and actually, things have been getting worse. He picks fights with me about topics he researches (and about which I have little or no knowledge); some things he says comes close to shirk. I think I was greatly mistaken about his devotion to Islam, although his family assures me that he practiced in his youth.

I love my husband dearly and I don't want a divorce. I'm quite certain he doesn't want a divorce either. There has to be some way to improve this situation, but I'm at my wits' end. I pray for his return to Islam, but he's becoming more vocal in his opposition to living life as a practicing Muslim.

If anyone can share some serious advice, I would appreciate it.
Jazakallahkhair for reading.
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Now thats a word for thanks you . ekdum damdaar ;D
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