Found this forum, I need help.

[worried]

Originally Posted by echarcha

I think worried is worried that his routine life will change.

worried bhau, imagine what a woman can do for you? You will go to office, you will come home and then bang your woman and then meet your friends

I mean what is the problem then??

On a serious note, I am unable to understand your worries. What are you worried about? Have you been a shy introvert type of a guy in college? Do you find it difficult to talk to a girl? What exactly is your problem?

You can tell us openly. We have experienced members, really, who can help you with your questions.

Lets begin again.

1) What is your age? Are you over 25? Over 30?
2) What is your education? Which degree did you get?
3) What type of a job are you into? Dont have to name the company.
4) Are there are any girls in your office?
5) Do you have to interact with women as part of your job?

See, our forum is not a sugary sweet chai stall. We are what we are. So stop being shy and open up, else we cannot help you.

Till you answer a few questions, I am out of this thread.

I am under 30 but over 25.
I have a Commerce degree with a Costing diploma.
I work for a financial and accounting services company.
There are girls in office.
I have to communicate with some girls who are my co workers for work.

[Napolean]

There is no harm in getting married - if you want more time then you need to speak to your parents about it.Tell them you want 3 more years of bachelor life.they will understand.

[ashdoc]

Originally Posted by Premi

it was just fitting to Ashdoc's profile but he goes for movies on fridays.

Originally Posted by Sane Less

Arey Ashdukhe pai, 40 years ke ho gaye ho yaar. Your parents must be worried... more than you. You are happy but how long do you think your friends will keep feeling you? Ha? How long? It is about time you got married. Koi Diya Viya milne waali nahi hai... bus gaaon ka chori le kar aane ko bol parents ko.

i am 36 , not 40 .....

and no , i go to movies on sundays nowadays--just look at my last two movie threads .

somebody is deliberately creating a profile similar to mine to create trouble

[worried]

I am reading all comments here.

My worry is I am having a good life. I know all marry at some time. I dont know what marry will mean so early. I cannot go in opposition of parents. My friends are bachelors. I have spoken to just one best friend. He is bachelor also. His family is not saying to marry right now. So no experience for him about marriage.

Some reply here say to tell my parents I dont want to marry. I need to give proper reason why. My father is very strict person. He likes all to follow what he says.

I have explained my worry now.

[smellyfinger]

Originally Posted by worried

I am reading all comments here.

My worry is I am having a good life. I know all marry at some time. I dont know what marry will mean so early. I cannot go in opposition of parents. My friends are bachelors. I have spoken to just one best friend. He is bachelor also. His family is not saying to marry right now. So no experience for him about marriage.

Some reply here say to tell my parents I dont want to marry. I need to give proper reason why. My father is very strict person. He likes all to follow what he says.

I have explained my worry now.

I think you should move out of your parents house and get your own place. Your parents just want a naukrani who will look after them 24/7. So get out while the getting is good. Once you have moved out, your parents will have less control over your life.

[worried]

Originally Posted by Napolean

There is no harm in getting married - if you want more time then you need to speak to your parents about it.Tell them you want 3 more years of bachelor life.they will understand.

My father is strict person. I am already working 3 years now in good job. After college and diploma I was doing articleship. Then got good job. Now father is feeling that I am right age to marry. I never thought of marry right now. I have no problem in marry someday. This is sudden requirement now from father. Mother cannot go against fathers wish.

[worried]

Originally Posted by smellyfinger

I think you should move out of your parents house and get your own place. Your parents just want a naukrani who will look after them 24/7. So get out while the getting is good. Once you have moved out, your parents will have less control over your life.

I am only son. How I can move out of house. Who will look after parents. I dont have separate home. Cannot buy home in Mumbai. Very costly.

[krantikari]

Belkom worried miya. You are on you way to your bery phirst crown on EC. Amazing feat considering this was your phirst post ?

[smellyfinger]

Originally Posted by worried

I am only son. How I can move out of house. Who will look after parents. I dont have separate home. Cannot buy home in Mumbai. Very costly.

Then get married. Your wife will look after parents. Problem solved!

[Charchila]

Originally Posted by worried

My father is strict person. I am already working 3 years now in good job. After college and diploma I was doing articleship. Then got good job. Now father is feeling that I am right age to marry. I never thought of marry right now. I have no problem in marry someday. This is sudden requirement now from father. Mother cannot go against fathers wish.

Does uncle-ji have access to internet? Send him a link to this thread

[echarcha]

Originally Posted by worried

I am reading all comments here.

My worry is I am having a good life. I know all marry at some time. I dont know what marry will mean so early. I cannot go in opposition of parents. My friends are bachelors. I have spoken to just one best friend. He is bachelor also. His family is not saying to marry right now. So no experience for him about marriage.

Some reply here say to tell my parents I dont want to marry. I need to give proper reason why. My father is very strict person. He likes all to follow what he says.

I have explained my worry now.

So let us say you are around 28, right in the middle of the age range 25 to 30.

Okay lets assume you get married. Now from your replies, you dont have a girl in mind. So maybe your parents will look for an arranged match.

And say you get married within some time. What is the problem? Today or tomorrow you will have to take the step.

And to give explanation of why you dont want to marry now, you should have that reason ready first in your own head.

Since you are into accounting, etc. you can create a balance sheet
Write all the pros on the left column and cons on the right column. Make a comparison. You will have your answer.

[Sane Less]

Originally Posted by worried

I am reading all comments here.

My worry is I am having a good life. I know all marry at some time. I dont know what marry will mean so early. I cannot go in opposition of parents. My friends are bachelors. I have spoken to just one best friend. He is bachelor also. His family is not saying to marry right now. So no experience for him about marriage.

Some reply here say to tell my parents I dont want to marry. I need to give proper reason why. My father is very strict person. He likes all to follow what he says.

I have explained my worry now.

Worrier pai, it seems like you are a good, decent guy. You are at that stage where you start to wonder about life and its expansive intricacies. You look at your country and wonder whether you can do it any good. You look at people and wonder why they are so. You look at your parents and wonder why they are after you. Do not worry. Here's how you can look at marriage...

Marriage is not just about you. It also has another being... usually called the wife (sometimes husband). I am sure you have given some thought to this other person... must have discussed with your friends... seen them in movies. Some people theorize they are from a different planet but that is not true. They are from here only. It is time to accept them and become part of them. You are old enough... else you will become as old as Ashudke pai... and believe me, that is very old. They make movies about being virgin at that age.

Now, coming to the wife part. They are really not that bad. In fact, look at it this way... you, yes you, can make one woman in this world very happy. How do you choose a wife? Simple, you cannot make an already happy woman more happy... or all that more happy. So, look for the saddest woman that you can find. Usually poor women are sad... sometimes some women undergo tragedy... they are sad too. Then there are women who have lost everything at a young age... yes, they are usually sad too. Marry one such woman (you might also be able to marry up to 4 such women, check your religion)... and believe me you will bring joy back to her life. Marriage is not all bad.

[ashdoc]

Originally Posted by Sane Less

else you will become as old as Ashudke pai... and believe me, that is very old. They make movies about being virgin at that age.

saneless , would you mind keeping me out of this discussion ??

[Sane Less]

Originally Posted by ashdoc

saneless , would you mind keeping me out of this discussion ??

Sorry if I have touched a nerve here. But you are just an ID... please leave your emotions behind when you log on. In the quote above I was just referring to elderly unmarried people... did not mean anyone specific... just that your name was there right above.

If you still think I did something wrong let me know and I will say sorry.

[worried]

Originally Posted by smellyfinger

Then get married. Your wife will look after parents. Problem solved!

You are saying that I must do marriage as my father say. I will have to but I dont want to now. I want to have my good life.

I can tell you what enjoyment I am having. I come from middle class family living in middle class area in Mumbai. Father is now retired from service. Mother is also retired. She took VRS long ago. My elder sister is marry and settled.

Before I started job, I was only doing college and study. Now only from 3 years I am free to not study. So on Sunday I am free to go for dinner after movie. My college friends also have good job. So we can spend money for enjoyment. Life is going very normal now. I dont know why to complicate with marry.

Father wants to get me marry to girl from same caste. I am okay because she will know our habits and culture. I see pictures and sometime want to have love story wedding but there is no girl in contact with me for such thing to happen.

Can you give me good reason to push marriage ahead for some time? My friends cannot think of any good reason. They think my father will not accept any reason. I want good reason to make him understand.