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Old August 10th, 2001, 03:37 AM
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Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage which is more succesfull ?

Hi Friends,

Wish to know your views on this subject!

Is Love marriage more successful then Arranged Marriage ?

I guess the most important Turn in life is when you get married, Suddenly after the lovely bachelorship/spinster* you are living you have to start thinking of someone who is living with you sharing the same bed , you have to be back on time because someone is waiting for you back home ! Now if this turn in life, if this decision in life is not correct your life is all in a mess

I feel Love marriage can be more successful as, if you already know a person whom you are going to marry its more easier for either of partners to live a happy married life. By knowing a person I mean fully understand his/her likes & dislikes, his/her attitude,nature, behavior before getting married.

On the other hand if arrange marriage you don't have enough time or don't have a chance to know your partner well. You just marry a person, and start living a life with a anonymous person There are chances that there might be no chemistry between the two & they might end up with a divorce. In some parts of India there are marriage's taking place without even looking at your partner,obviously not in big cities.

Don't you think love marriage is far more better then arrange marriage. ?

Do lemme know your honest opinions
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Old August 10th, 2001, 06:18 AM
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Whatever method you choose, make sure that:

There is love after marriage
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Old August 10th, 2001, 08:34 AM
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Well said arya bhai..

But important part is.. love your spouse (do not say well I had love with my neighbour Also trust is equally important.

I have seen both arrange and love marriages fail and both of them succeed too so makes no difference.
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Old August 10th, 2001, 11:06 AM
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Old August 10th, 2001, 11:11 AM
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Old August 10th, 2001, 11:13 AM
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What is a successful marriage?
one that is not unsuccessful, i guess
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Cool Marraiges!

This is a difficult question I guess.It all depends on the adaptibility of the partners.A love affair spanning four years can run into rough weather after marraige as the things are so much different under one roof.Chivelry disappears after marraige some times.The person who was so sweet before marraige doesnt seem the same after marraige.

On the contrary if it's an arranged marraige the partners get used to each other the way they are...no change in behaviour is seen!.So it's relative depends on lot of factors!
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It does not matter whether it's love or arranged before marriage. A marriage could be sucessful if it stands on four pillar - Love, Faith, Compromise and Respect.
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Re: Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage which is more succesfull ?

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I feel Love marriage can be more successful as, if you already know a person whom you are going to marry its more easier for either of partners to live a happy married life. By knowing a person I mean fully understand his/her likes & dislikes, his/her attitude,nature, behavior before getting married.
By your reasoning US should have the lowest number of divorces and India the highest. i.e. If you agree that divorce is a sign of a unsuccesful marriage.
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It does not matter whether it's love or arranged before marriage. A marriage could be sucessful if it stands on four pillar - Love, Faith, Compromise and Respect.
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