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Old June 29th, 2010, 10:03 AM
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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Ok...I am loosing you. Are you saying that we marry only because we want to have sex?
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all the things emotional support and financial backup and having kids can be fulfilled without the marriage too. lawnmowing, gardening and snow removal can be given on contract, mortgages can be paid solely by one person too. the most important is having true friends. thats why I always say that if you HAVE To get married then marry ur best friend ( prefer opposite sex and single, age doesnt matter )

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Old June 29th, 2010, 10:56 AM
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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Ok...I am loosing you. Are you saying that we marry only because we want to have sex?

No - I am saying that sex is the only thing exclusive in a marriage. In fact, a lot of women get married because they DONT want to have sex that much any more

Other than obvious things like abuse, infidelity is the one surefire way to divorce. No judge will ever deny a divorce petition that is due on infidelity.

When you really strip it down, sex - or sexual exclusivity - is the only defining part of a marriage. For everything else, you can have multiple partners.
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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all the things emotional support and financial backup and having kids can be fulfilled without the marriage too. lawnmowing, gardening and snow removal can be given on contract, mortgages can be paid solely by one person too. the most important is having true friends. thats why I always say that if you HAVE To get married then marry ur best friend ( prefer opposite sex and single, age doesnt matter )

Marriage is business that has an illusion of pleasure at the outset. If you do business with your friend....first determine what you need the most (business or friend)
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Old June 29th, 2010, 11:45 AM
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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No - I am saying that sex is the only thing exclusive in a marriage. In fact, a lot of women get married because they DONT want to have sex that much any more

Other than obvious things like abuse, infidelity is the one surefire way to divorce. No judge will ever deny a divorce petition that is due on infidelity.

When you really strip it down, sex - or sexual exclusivity - is the only defining part of a marriage. For everything else, you can have multiple partners.
Oh ok, now I got you...Yeah, sex is the only thing exclusive in marriage. I would also like to think that, I am committed and would have a sense of security (how much ever false that is) that he/she would not leave as easily when in a wed-lock.
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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Oh ok, now I got you...Yeah, sex is the only thing exclusive in marriage. I would also like to think that, I am committed and would have a sense of security (how much ever false that is) that he/she would not leave as easily when in a wed-lock.
Wedlock is like frontal handcuff....your hands are tried at front but you are free to move about and do many a things as opposed to handcuff at the back or on the feet

He/she if they leave...are no longer in wedlock...that is called divorce (or legal separation)
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Oh ok, now I got you...Yeah, sex is the only thing exclusive in marriage. I would also like to think that, I am committed and would have a sense of security (how much ever false that is) that he/she would not leave as easily when in a wed-lock.
So you are saying that marriage is a handcuff that you get to place on your spouse? And someone was accusing ME of de-romanticizing the great institution!!
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Whatever the couple does behind closed doors is their business...
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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Wedlock is like frontal handcuff....your hands are tried at front but you are free to move about and do many a things as opposed to handcuff at the back or on the feet

He/she if they leave...are no longer in wedlock...that is called divorce (or legal separation)
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So you are saying that marriage is a handcuff that you get to place on your spouse? And someone was accusing ME of de-romanticizing the great institution!!
It completely depends on how you want to look at it; handcuff's or a strong bond
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Re: Is marriage a baggage we carry from the past?

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So you are saying that marriage is a handcuff that you get to place on your spouse? And someone was accusing ME of de-romanticizing the great institution!!
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It completely depends on how you want to look at it; handcuff's or a strong bond
C'mon Rakhi, you two are saying the same thing. He is just spoofing it. Marriage is a bondage, legally a surrender to another's will, and finding one's own satisfaction within it. Frictions happen when the individual will precedence over the common will.


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.I always say that if you HAVE To get married then marry ur best friend ( prefer opposite sex and single, age doesnt matter )
Disagree Sir. Are you married Premi? When two people are staying as close as husband and wife, there is bound to be frictions. At such times you need a friend. Also, if things go wrong, you lose a husband/ wife as well as a friend. Umpires should not be players. So, when husband and wife have a tiff, they may use their friends for sounding off, but can't use each other.
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When two people are staying as close as husband and wife, there is bound to be frictions. At such times you need a friend. Also, if things go wrong, you lose a husband/ wife as well as a friend. Umpires should not be players. So, when husband and wife have a tiff, they may use their friends for sounding off, but can't use each other.
The saying goes that if you really want to love a girl forever, you should marry her to your neighbour.
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