I feel offended by a member's post. What should I do?

[echarcha]

Here is one helpful tip for newcomers and long time members alike.

If someone writes something and you feel offended, please IGNORE it. Unless a member is continually stalking you and making personal attacks, we cannot and will not do anything.

You come here as a digital identity and not a real person. I mean, if you get easily offended then you are on the wrong forum. I have said this before and I will say it again - Log off your personal ego, emotions, personality and then login here.

I had to start this topic because I see a pattern where people get offended or offend others and then everyone creates a hue and cry and keeps asking me to intervene. I cannot do it always, though I try my best.

If someone wants to go away because of feeling offended - GO AWAY!! DONT BOTHER ME!!

If someone was not consoled or I was unable to take their sides - STOP BOTHERING ME!! I REFUSE TO WET NURSE EVERY EGO!!!

If people want to vent and fume and abuse and use foul language - It might be okay once in a while, but otherwise take your medications and GO AWAY till they take effect and you are back as a normal person. DO NOT BOTHER ME!!!

eCharcha.Com is a free website, costing me 145 dollars a month to host on a dedicated server. I make no money from this site. Whatever donations I get and whatever commissions I get from Amazon are not enough beyond a 3 to 4 months worth of hosting fees and vBulletin licensing fees. I make nothing, I dont charge anything - so I dont owe anybody any kind of service!!

eCharcha.Com is for fun and pass time. I too want to enjoy it. I am not here to keep on wet nursing folks and mediating fights. Sorry to sound harsh, but this has to stop!!

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation, in advance!
- Sunit

[echarcha]

Originally Posted by 2gud

Charch you should put this on the front page as a sticky. This is much better than FAQ for newcomers. Drives the point straight home, and would really bring your intended results

I have made it into a sticky thread in the Newbie section.

[echarcha]

1) Log off your emotions, ego, whims, fancies, whatever and then log in to echarcha

2) You maybe be a 20 year old man/woman or a 100 years old man/woman. Please do not expect special treatment just because you are a young boy/girl or a great grandfather/grandmother.

3) If you are in a bad mood and vent out, then its fine once in a while. Please note, once in a while does not mean every week!

4) Do not stalk/attack/berate members just for the heck of it. If you dont like a user, then criticise but be prepared to accept the criticism and harsh words that member will return. DONT FUCKING BE A WUSS.. Wyaah Wyaah Wyaaah.

5) eCharcha.Com is not your real life. Its a digital medium for time-pass. Grow up and get a life. eCharcha.Com will not go away or die or thrive because you have intricately tied your life around it. Do not think of all members here are your own family members or friends. Some may be nice enough to treat you as one, but dont expect same from everybody.

6) Point 5 brings up this one - Do not mention your wife/husband/mother/father/dog/cat/neighbour/janitor/maid/driver/whoever here in any context if you are not willing to take all kinds of comments about them. If you bring someone from your real life into a discussion here, then dont be fucking surprised if someone passes a harsh comment. I try to limit folks from dragging personal matters and making personal attacks. But now, I am bored of doing it over and over again. You are forewarned, so dont you tell me you were hurt - Too bad, I cannot help it if you are hurt

7) This is a Website which caters to all sorts of folks. Do not expect a rosy, goodie goodie, nice nice, sugary sweet atmosphere here like some other gay sites. We are not harsh and rough just for the heck of it, and we do treat members with respect; but only upto a certain point. After that its pretty much 'Each one for himself and God for all'

8) Stop boring and flooding the boards with - I am offended so I am leaving, Where is so and so, Why so and so is a this and that.

FUCK YOU!! I absolutely refuse to get interested in who quit and why!!
I used to care earlier, but of late this method of emotional blackmail has stopped working. You want to leave, then in the words of our member smellyfinger - 'Dont let the door hit your fat ass on your way out'. Yeah. Go.. Dont bother me or bother members.

I am bored and tired of members ganging up on one member or a new member bashing old timers. Stop this incredibly stupid activity. It is not even worth a minute's time of reading.

Hope you can follow these simple rules

[zyzzva]

Dont let the door hit your fat ass on your way out

What exactly does this kahaawat means ? Please explain , I really don't understand it's literal meaning .Does it means , jaatay jaatay , bayaabroo , insulted ho kar mut jaayo , chupchaap nikal jaao.

[echarcha]

Originally Posted by zyzzva

What exactly does this kahaawat means ? Please explain , I really don't understand it's literal meaning .Does it means , jaatay jaatay , bayaabroo , insulted ho kar mut jaayo , chupchaap nikal jaao.

It means - If you leave the house and walk out, then dont let the swinging door of the house hit you on your ass.

So Lovey, if you go, like you disappear for periods of time, then dont let the echarcha door hit your rear!

[Ravi]

Originally Posted by zyzzva

What exactly does this kahaawat means ? Please explain , I really don't understand it's literal meaning .Does it means , jaatay jaatay , bayaabroo , insulted ho kar mut jaayo , chupchaap nikal jaao.

It means 'don't let the door hit you where good lord split you'.

[tantric_yogi]

Originally Posted by zyzzva

Please explain ,

You been back here for some time now ... doing what you do best ... had feeling. Care to pm ... not which ... just the number?

Couldn't possibly be like good old days when you were young and fertile or is it still the same old you.

[Ravi]

Originally Posted by echarcha

I feel offended by a member's post. What should I do?

Pick your balls up and go elsewhere.

[milanfanabhi]

Originally Posted by Ravi

Pick your balls (if you got any)up and go elsewhere.

*fixed........................................................

[zyzzva]

It means - If you leave the house and walk out, then dont let the swinging door of the house hit you on your ass.

Chaa Saab , yeh toh aapne Vohi baat doosre angrezi kay shabdon may keh dee.Itna toh mai samajh hee gayaa thaa kee , Jaa rahe ho toh jaao but is baat kee koshish karo kee ghar say bahaar nikalte waqt , us ghar ka Hilta darwaza ( andar bahaar swing hota hua a la hindi philmo kay Police station jaisa , tumhaare Chuttar par peechay say chaanta naa lagaa day ) .

BHai mai ek moti Jaat buddhi hoon ( 16 dooni 8 waala ) , isliye baat kee gehraai abhi bhee nahin samajh paa rahaa hoon , isliye fir poochtaa hoon kii kyaa mutlab hua Ungli baba kay muhavray kaa .Jo mai abhi tak samjha hoon voh yeh hai ki

House = Ghar = echarcha site with echarchans

Darwazaa Gaand pay lagnaa = If you want to leave echarcha for any reason(s) then please do so silently without trying to make a pomp and show of it in the disguise of a leaving cause notice , trying to gain attention for your departure and in an attempt to indirectly making an appeal to some echarchans to cajol and coax you not to leave .Because if you do so , chances are that there might be a brigade of echarchans who wouldn't miss the opportunity to screw you for again more vengeantly / vehemently for the so called last time and thus making your departure unpleasantly memorable to you .


Bus mujhe yeh bataa do , ki kyaa yahee mutlab huaa is baat ka jo maine samjhaa , ki kuch aur hai Daryaa kee gehraai ?



So Lovey, if you go, like you disappear for periods of time, then dont let the echarcha door hit your rear!



Bhai auro kaa pataa nahin , apnaa keh saktaa hoon , kee in keeping with true Narci antics , mai toh jub bhee jaayungaa full band baajay kay saath jaaunga and jub bhee aayungaa khoob dhoom dhaRaakay kay saath aayunga , ab chaahe jaane may darwaaja gaand pay lagay chaahe aanay may tatto pay ....hum toh hain aisay , bhai aisay rahengay ....( song hai ek )


You been back here for some time now ...

Was never away , if not participating actively , use to keep a chor nigaah on to whats going on ...a la a car driver who always keeps a chor nigaah on the real view mirror while driving forward. Had to lurk , so as not to lose the touch with the latest chutyagiri



doing what you do best ...

I am glad I havent let down your expectations and have lived upto them...Thank you , I with full humility accept thy compliment ...



had feeling.
YEp feelings and voh bhee VIP Cotton Panties waali ....ekdum special.

As regards my feelings for echarcha they are what they were and they would be what they were on the first day when the site started and I was amongst the first few person who registered and started paricipating actively...Feelings kaa ab mai kya kahun , control nahin hotaa but 16 aanay kharii baat kehtaa hoon , kee feelings kay taraazu may jub bhee aap apne say humko tolaogay , toh hameshaa palRa humhaara humhaaree feelings kay vajan kay kaaran , humhaaree ore jhujaa huaa paayoge , fir chaahe hum kitne hee arsay kay liye yahaan say nadaarad rahein.As i have said earlier also several times , it's just because I consider echarcha.com as my whole sole personal property ( with no partner ship ) with me being the propreitor.period.[/color]


Care to pm ...


not which ...

just the number?



Zaroor PM kar doonga Hukum , kissee ko karoon yeah naa karoon , aap ko zaroor karunga , because , ek Baais- tayis saal ki Khoobsoorat jawaan laRki ( Haryana may Atlas cycle waalay Kapoor Saab ki ) ko aapse koi khatraa nahin hai because I know kee aap ko pachpan ki umr may khaRay hokar mootne kay liye aadhi goli Viagra kee khaanee paRti hai taaki pishaab chappal pay naa gir jaaye



Couldn't possibly be like good old days when you were young and fertile or is it still the same old you.

Trust me , I am as I was and would be as I am ...18 till I die ...the same Naughty , Notorious , Natty Narci ...

[zyzzva]

Raana Saab , or was it my number you were asking for ...( I don't think so , mere number kaa aap kyaa karoge , mai toh aapse do genration chotaa hoon )

[tantric_yogi]

Originally Posted by zyzzva

Raana Saab , or was it my number you were asking for ...( I don't think so , mere number kaa aap kyaa karoge , mai toh aapse do genration chotaa hoon )

roflmao ... @ 2 generations. More like decade plus.

I am having problem with your recent posts ... cant follow ... on good days I still can Hindi, Gujarati, Marathi, or local dialects from back home ... only on good days ... have lost fluency ... no fluidity. I don't have problems with English ... am not claiming that.

Honest ... I haven't been able to follow any more than few words of your recent participation. I do try ... give up out of frustration.