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Old June 24th, 2011, 06:20 AM
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Auspicious dates-How important are they?

I seem to be facing some challenges with regards to 'auspicious dates'. Thing is I wanted my seemantham (Godh bharai) to be done when my both my parents are here in summer. But my in-laws are saying that there is not a single date which is good in the 5 weeks my parents are here. I am really disappointed as i wanted my parents to be here for this function. I know my in laws mean well for the baby, I am not complaining about that part.

I wanted to know how important it is to have certain things done at certain time. I do know that auspicious times/dates are there for a reason. But cant I bend them at all? How does this work?

Please advise me.

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Old June 24th, 2011, 07:13 AM
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Re: Auspicious dates-How important are they?

Each day has its good and bad time,excepty certain days when every minute of the day is auspicious like akshay trithi,dashara,etc
You can have the function during the auspicious time of the day.
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Old June 24th, 2011, 07:34 AM
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I seem to be facing some challenges with regards to 'auspicious dates'. Thing is I wanted my seemantham (Godh bharai)

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I wanted to know how important it is to have certain things done at certain time. I do know that auspicious times/dates are there for a reason. But cant I bend them at all? How does this work?

Please advise me.
Ask the baby what time of day and which summer weekend its free to go see seema singing her anthem...

baaki sabb apni disco daandiyaan karr ke apne apne ghar chale jaayeingay....

you will have to face it all by yourself when the pissed baby turns the womb into a kickboxer's gym...
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Old June 24th, 2011, 07:39 AM
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Each day has its good and bad time,excepty certain days when every minute of the day is auspicious like akshay trithi,dashara,etc
You can have the function during the auspicious time of the day.
Thank you Swami for being considerate enough not to make fun of my predicament, I will sure look into this.
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Old June 24th, 2011, 07:49 AM
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Thank you Swami for being considerate enough not to make fun of my predicament, I will sure look into this.
no fun lady...emotional atyachhar naheen karne ka...every culture/sub culture/society/family has its own customs...when your in laws already said there is not a single date...how can there be a single minute...swami uncle is giving you glucose ki toffee with chocolate wafers...

there are many such periods in hindu calendar when certain things just cannot be attempted...for example a period called shraad...this period is considered to be suitable only for one activity...feeding people in remembrance of the dead...people dont do anything during this time...not even buy a child's toy...

totally depends on the level of orthodoxy...its a very personal situation...everyone here will reply based on personal knowledge and customs only which will be very different from yours....hinduism is a very broad religion...local customs and beliefs can vary drastically....therefore the best option to follow if you are going to go with the value systems within your family/families, is to consult people who are knowledgable enough with the values and beliefs of your specialised sub culture, which is not a racist term by the way...an anthropological one...

buss...pooray haftay ka seriousness quota ek post mein khatam karwaa diya...
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Old June 24th, 2011, 08:07 AM
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no fun lady...emotional atyachhar naheen karne ka...every culture/sub culture/society/family has its own customs...when your in laws already said there is not a single date...how can there be a single minute...swami uncle is giving you glucose ki toffee with chocolate wafers...

there are many such periods in hindu calendar when certain things just cannot be attempted...for example a period called shraad...this period is considered to be suitable only for one activity...feeding people in remembrance of the dead...people dont do anything during this time...not even buy a child's toy...

totally depends on the level of orthodoxy...its a very personal situation...everyone here will reply based on personal knowledge and customs only which will be very different from yours....hinduism is a very broad religion...local customs and beliefs can vary drastically....therefore the best option to follow if you are going to go with the value systems within your family/families, is to consult people who are knowledgable enough with the values and beliefs of your specialised sub culture, which is not a racist term by the way...an anthropological one...

buss...pooray haftay ka seriousness quota ek post mein khatam karwaa diya...
You couldn't have said this in your first reply without hurting me huh? My sister told me that whoever makes me happy now will get a lot of punyam. so, if you want punya, you better behave...LOL

I do understand that every culture is different. I guess I was just vainly looking for someone/anyone to say that i should still go ahead and do this when I have my parents with me. I know, I am sounding clingy but hey, I am just looking at my options. Who wouldnt when your options are already limited.

Too many things involved...waning phase of the moon, aadi maasam etc etc. maybe I should just let go and not do anything. Its not like its the end of the world...or so i will convince myself.
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I started one jobb on a Tuesday and it went horribkly bad. After that, i have started important things on auspicious dates
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Old June 24th, 2011, 08:26 AM
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I seem to be facing some challenges with regards to 'auspicious dates'. Thing is I wanted my seemantham (Godh bharai) to be done when my both my parents are here in summer. But my in-laws are saying that there is not a single date which is good in the 5 weeks my parents are here. I am really disappointed as i wanted my parents to be here for this function. I know my in laws mean well for the baby, I am not complaining about that part.

I wanted to know how important it is to have certain things done at certain time. I do know that auspicious times/dates are there for a reason. But cant I bend them at all? How does this work?

Please advise me.
First of all, it is only by this post that i have come to know about your baby - so congrats on the same.

My take - If you consider these ceremonies important, you better consider the dates also as important- they are part and parcel of the beliefs that underly these ceremonies / rituals.

Try to get your parents to adjust their schedule (it is surely important for them too) If they cannot, you can have a separate baby shower and iinvite them ( my better half had 2 - one from my colleagues , other from her friends)

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You couldn't have said this in your first reply without hurting me huh? My sister told me that whoever makes me happy now will get a lot of punyam. so, if you want punya, you better behave...LOL

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I want punya??punya to meri daadi ban sakti hai...even chhoti punya can be my mother in a year or two...

please find punya below...thank god the punya is going to swami...



paap on left...punya on right...

by the way why dont you do some other anthem when your parents are around...you can always do things off the record...
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Each day has its good and bad time,excepty certain days when every minute of the day is auspicious like akshay trithi,dashara,etc
You can have the function during the auspicious time of the day.

important ceremnoies are done on auspicious days on auspicius tmes.
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Old June 24th, 2011, 09:05 AM
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important ceremnoies are done on auspicious days on auspicius tmes.
apart from the shraad month give me a date which you would call inauspicious
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First of all, it is only by this post that i have come to know about your baby - so congrats on the same.

My take - If you consider these ceremonies important, you better consider the dates also as important- they are part and parcel of the beliefs that underly these ceremonies / rituals.

Try to get your parents to adjust their schedule (it is surely important for them too) If they cannot, you can have a separate baby shower and iinvite them ( my better half had 2 - one from my colleagues , other from her friends)
Thank you

yeah, I value this ceremony a lot and that's why I want to make sure it goes right. My mom is telling to go check with another temple/pundit and see if we can at least get 1 day in the entire 5 weeks they are here. Maybe I should do that..

If not, it would end up being a typical North America baby shower.
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Basically what I read from your post is that you definitely want your parents to be part of a ritual which is important to you and them. Its tradition.

As swami suggested, look for a muhurat on a given day and do it. Your parents will be happy.

And when your in laws are here, you can do it as per the muhurat which is good for the entire day - like swami said, akshya trithiya, etc.

Your child gets double blessings this way

See, you may not be a stickler for 'shubh avsar' or shubh muhurat, but elders live by that tradition, so keep both sets of parents happy.

Talk it out with your husband.
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normally what I see here the baby shower is in 7th month of pregnancy, if not then swami or badri pai can tell which day has the time to perform the "vidhi" for Godhbharaai.

OR give a call to Preist at 416-321 6104 and find out the day and time.
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the real matter to consider wil be how to tell ur in-laws that what they said is not good is actually good as per swami ( of EC fame )
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