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Old September 1st, 2009, 01:31 PM
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takes me around the same time doing chores you mentioned.

You forgot about washing dishes. sabse badi piraablem.
I find cooking the biggest problem... doing dishes is fine... just asks a little discipline....wash it immediately after using it... otherwise very soon sink would be full... garbage is no big deal at all... take it with you when you're going out...
So really, what's the big deal....People seem to make a 'hauva' out of household chores.... we do it now... what changes after marriage.... agreed girls are little finicky about cleanliness...if you follow a daily regime...it hardly takes an hour of your day...
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Ha yaar Honest kaha hi,koi to usko PM karo,mai to block hu uske list mei koi to bhejo re PMwa
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Family planning kar raha hi kya

Shaktibhai,I dont know what to term my post as view or counter view,ingrezi me bahut kam hu apun
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Ha yaar Honest kaha hi,koi to usko PM karo,mai to block hu uske list mei koi to bhejo re PMwa
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bheja tha do-teen din pehle... jawab nahi aaya... lagta hai biji hai.

SWAMI AND SHAKTI... TAKE YOUR NONSENSE SOMEWHERE ELSE.

Mods will you please tell this Swami it is not funny or interesting to read his nonsense derailing replies all the time?
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Old September 2nd, 2009, 01:15 AM
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Re: Working full time and household chores

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Just read the sequences of the posts did I derail the thread?I just wrote my view and Shakti started,now if he asks me something and I replied am I wrong ?
I at times feel I am Rajpal Yadav of Hungama,jo ata hai markar jaata hi

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SWAMI AND SHAKTI... TAKE YOUR NONSENSE SOMEWHERE ELSE.

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Pakki tai
Just read the sequences of the posts did I derail the thread?I just wrote my view and Shakti started,now if he asks me something and I replied am I wrong ?
I at times feel I am Rajpal Yadav of Hungama,jo ata hai markar jaata hi
chhod naa... all ladies are control freaks... and order maniacs... everything should be in order. blah blah blah ba ba blah noise

BTW I find it funny all echarchans posting 4-5 sentences articles... Pakki has written a normal post with just sentences... no organized train of thoughts in paragraphs... whole article idea seems bombed. Shiv-Sainik pai has the only credible article material i've read in this thread so far.

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Re: Working full time and household chores

Why should there be batwara . half, 1/3 , 3/4ths etc . As chitrala mentioned since living independently we already do most of the chores ourselves. Now it does get so boring sometimes that we procrastinate , thats another matter though .

I support helping spouse with day-to-day activities but instead of batwara I think we can help each other out at everything ...
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chhod naa... all ladies are control freaks... and order maniacs... everything should be in order. blah blah blah ba ba blah noise

BTW I find it funny all echarchans posting 4-5 sentences articles... Pakki has written a normal post with just sentences... no organized train of thoughts in paragraphs... whole article idea seems bombed. Shiv-Sainik pai has the only credible article material i've read in this thread so far.
aare .. this is unofficial I think since there was no decision on who is writing the articles ...
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Re: Working full time and household chores

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I am sure no Indian man agrees to do 50% of the chores just because his wife is working. As long as everything is getting done, most men just take it easy and relax and on top of that complain if something seems off.

It is incorrect to assume that the wife after a full time job and kids will happily shoulder the entire responsibility of household chores. She certainly needs help and 50% na bhi sahi to 30-40 percent regular help necessary hai.
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Re: Working full time and household chores

This is the best part of being in India. This question does not arise

The answer : Hire house helps (servants if you will)

If the man and woman are both working and are making enough money there is ample help available to do cooking, cleaning, ironing clothes washing the toilets etc.

Why waste your precious weekend time doing these things when it can be done by someone? This makes the money you work for worth working so hard for!

The weekend could be such:

1. You wake up a little later than usual.
2. Watch TV with your spouse and play with your children while your breakfast is being prepared.
3. Then while your house is being cleaned have a great long bath.
4. Then after reading some news papers and books go down to your car (which has been cleaned by someone in the morning)
5. Take your car out and visit some friends, do some other bank related work etc.
6. Your lunch has been prepared in the meanwhile. Have lunch and take a power nap.
7. Tea will be readied by the time you wake up. Have tea and go to the club to play badminton or some sport.
8. Come back cool your heels.
9. Have early dinner and go out and catch a 9:00 P.M movie at a multiplex.
10. Come back and end your Saturday.

Going to dept. stores just for the same mundane grocery items is also boring. One phone call to the grocery wala comes in handy all items like wheat flour,rice,milk,eggs and all other edible items are delivered at your doorstep. I would rather spend that time in dept. stores shopping for clothes or some such items not available at the local bania shop.

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Repeat Sunday almost the same way! Maybe invite some friends over for lunch (remember you dont have to cook or do the dishes, so it's convenient)

BTW: Before you dish out western notions by saying that you should be self reliant and be prepared to do your own work etc. Let me say that westerners have no choice in this regard except to do their work by themselves. Also, I see this as spreading the wealth to the have not's by employing them at decent salaries. Personally I hate doing household chores.
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Before you dish out western notions by saying that you should be self reliant and be prepared to do your own work etc. Let me say that westerners have no choice in this regard except to do their work by themselves. Also, I see this as spreading the wealth to the have not's by employing them at decent salaries. Personally I hate doing household chores.
I don't think anyone would deny this; Its very expensive to hire help on a daily basis. Might as well do it ourselves here...
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For christ sake ... we live in 21st century and not in Saudi Arabia ... a man must share household chores 50/50 if he loves his wife.

Question ought not be if okay for a man to help wife in house work ... but how much a man loves his woman. A good husband who loves wife must let her do all household chores for health reasons or she will get sick and lethargic. A sick woman is very difficult to love.

Being a man meself ... I do admit ... its very painful for a loving man to watch TV while his wife is sweeping the floor but a good husband sacrifices and suffers in silence for the sake of her health.
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Re: Working full time and household chores

What if your wife is a homemaker? Would it be OK for her to demand that the husband share responsibility of the household chores in addition to doing his full-time job? Is it OK for husband to ask for things like breakfast, lunch, dinner, laundry, istri-wala kapda on time?
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What if your wife is a homemaker? Is it OK for husband to ask for things like breakfast, lunch, dinner, laundry, istri-wala kapda on time?
Perfectly okay ... she should also help you take shoes and socks off after you return home all tired and exhausted ... massage your feet ... bath and dry you ... wipe your ass.

But never forget the most important rule ... never ever share your bed with her ... kitchen floor is where she MUST sleep ... unless you want to share room with Shiny Ahuja.
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Perfectly okay ... she should also help you take shoes and socks off after you return home all tired and exhausted ... massage your feet ... bath and dry you ... wipe your ass.

But never forget the most important rule ... never ever share your bed with her ... kitchen floor is where she MUST sleep ... unless you want to share room with Shiny Ahuja.
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