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Old June 25th, 2015, 04:27 PM
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Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

Lets discuss hardships in relationships. How to know if the hardship you are experiencing is temporary and you should stay, vs. when the hardship that will not change and you should leave?


Relationships have ups and downs, but people talk only about being happy I’ve seen people stay in unhappy relationships for way too long, but there are people who run at the first sign of trouble.
What are the basic parameters to stay or say bye forever.


Some of the reasons why any relation can become tough

1. When there is no mutual Respect . Contempt, anger, invalidating ~ are some deal breakers .
2. When there is infidelity, physical or emotional.

3. When there is an issue “beyond” me. Addiction, abuse, gambling, Etc.
4. When the person won’t take care of himself/herself. Morbidly obese, untreated health problems, untreated depression.
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Old June 25th, 2015, 07:07 PM
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Re: Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

Good speed. 6 months back you ask for pick lines. Looks like it worked so well that you picked up, got fed up and now the relationship is in a hardship. 2 ships.

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How about posting some funny pick-up lines here and please, not the old boring one like I posted below

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

Something new,creative,impressive.
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Re: Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

If the hardship you are facing in the relationship is the same as what is faced by millions... for example, hunger... economics... work... etc., then you should try and keep the relationship. But if the hardship is originating from the person you are in the relationship with then it is advisable to stay away from that person. For example, if the person is a psycho and has attempted to hack you with a knife... or if she gets up in the middle of the night and makes weird faces and noises (Chennai Express)... or if he is a stalker (Chennai Express). It is really not that hard.
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Old June 26th, 2015, 06:08 AM
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Re: Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

if there is hardship then listen to old hindi sad songs. remember that listening is difrent from hearing.

here is one classic by Talat.

sab kuch luta ke hosh me aae to kya kiya.
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Swamijee, your problem is too personal to be discussed at a public forum. You screwed her. Now she screws you back. This is called law of karma. Get out of this relationship. Go back to respectable Bhabhijee. Ask for forgiveness. Forget other woman. Stop visiting Munnibai's kotha and massage parlors.
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Re: Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

Whether to stay in a relationship or not completely differs from one person to another. The tolerance level, the ability to forgive etc is different from one person to another.

For example, for me physical abuse maybe the deal breaker. For you infidelity maybe the deal breaker. For someone else, a spouse watching porn maybe a deal breaker.

If we are talking about day to day arguments/ disagreements, then it happens in every relationship. It's not the argument itself that is the problem in most cases. It's the inability to move past an argument that is the issue.
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Watching porn alone without me near is a deal breaker, btw wat is deal?
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Re: Hardships in a relationship,to stay or not

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Whether to stay in a relationship or not completely differs from one person to another. The tolerance level, the ability to forgive etc is different from one person to another.

For example, for me physical abuse maybe the deal breaker. For you infidelity maybe the deal breaker. For someone else, a spouse watching porn maybe a deal breaker.

If we are talking about day to day arguments/ disagreements, then it happens in every relationship. It's not the argument itself that is the problem in most cases. It's the inability to move past an argument that is the issue.
"It's not the argument itself that is the problem in most cases. It's the inability to move past an argument that is the issue."

Good one. very well observed.
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खून का घूँट पीना आसान नहीं होता.
अपने अहम को रिश्तों पर हावी मत होने दो.
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