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Old October 3rd, 2000, 02:15 PM
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In context of the Indian society which is still not so open about sex, is sexual fantasy, harbored by either spouse, a sin?

When a partner in a marriage fantasises of having sex with, say, a leading film star or other popular figure, is it a sin? Or is it healthy?

If your partner were to disclose his/her sexual fantasy, how will you react?
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Old October 5th, 2000, 06:14 AM
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Well, fantasy is not unhealthy. Nor a sin (i think). But relating them to your partner is the tricky bit. You have to know what your partner is like, and how much can he/she swallow (no pun). Even for the cool partners, its better to say fantasies involve someone out of reach... model, movie star, someone-you-never-saw-before (yeah right), etc. Never mention a friend, neighbour, milkman....

For more jealous partner, and if you really HAVE to share the fantasy, tell them its him/her you fantasize about all the time.
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Old October 5th, 2000, 02:49 PM
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Hey spunkygal,

I am not married yet, but I definitely love to fantasise about Juhi Chawla and Sonali Bendre....

About milkman.. Gosssh... I am straight!
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>>About milkman.. Gosssh... I am straight! <<

Well so am I! So Chuhi and Bandaree are out!!

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Old October 5th, 2000, 07:58 PM
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Cool Fantasies !!! ??? :( :-) ;)

I still remember the voluptious aunty next door
My eyes till roll out when a cute , sexy gal ..pass by me.
Madhuri Dixit ..still rakes my dream (man ..i was even dancing with her once other than that ..chumma thing and so on.. )
..Hain ..Dhak Dhak Karney laga ..

But one thing is sure .. when you share these wild fantasies with your partner ..you will get your ass burnt/kicked . It happened to me .
I feel Wether it is india or some other part of the world .. partner will surely feel jealous if they know that you are fantasizing about others.

So i suggest better you all keep your fantasies in your brain ,dreams, thoughts etc. Dont pull them out before your partners and get your ass kicked/burnt.

OK ..if you reall want to pull your fantasies out of your brains ..POST YOUR FANTASIE AT ECHARCHA
isnt it a better way ? What say echarcha ?
else ..u can even use hell number of Porn sites ..who are desperate for those kind of stuff

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Old October 10th, 2000, 12:54 AM
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Is it a sin?

Hell no. It is not a sin. Atleast not unless you act it out or something and cheat on your partner. (But that is a different thread altogether)

About your partner feeling jealous when you tell them their fantasy, I think that is a natural part of human behaviour. I mean, what if your partner tells you his/her sexual fantasy and that doesnt involve you. Wont you feel jealous? (And that should be a different thread too I guess.. gosh.. my clothes will run out of threads at this rate)

I think it is kindof natural for a person to have a sexual fantasy about a person other than the one you are with throught your life.
Suppose you are have dal and chawal everyday, wont you want biriyani and chicken tandoori someday (provided you are not a veggie)

I know the example sucks... but it is kindof similar dont you think?
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Old October 10th, 2000, 11:21 AM
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Yaar Bahut_masti, Idhar to saare G**dmasti wale pahunch gaye hain. Anyway I am also from the other side of the fence. As for the topic about sexual fantasies, it is normal and a very human part of our Human Nature. Everybody has them. Gosh, come to think of it some girl might be fantasizing about me! Wow!

Whether you share your fantasies with your spouse/partner or not would depend upon how close you both are. I was once going around with a girl who was a Psycho analyst for the Indian Army (you know they analyse your psychology before you can join). She could look at me when there was another female around and tell whether I was mentally undressing the other girl. She never used to mind, saying it is normal human reaction. But she started analysing me too much so I had to bid her adieu. Whew what a relief.

In majority of the cases, it would not be wise to share your fantasies with your spouse if you are not too sure about their reactions. for all you know you could end up being the next Mr. Bobbit
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What's wrong in that? Its just a dream, right? Its true that most of us are slaves to societal norms and these dreams allow us to do something that society abhors. oh, slut

and some might say: what if the dream cums true? Well, if you have such strong feelings about the dream not cumming true, you know your limits, right ?

If you are okay if that dream cumming true, why care - just go and Bloody DO IT





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I still remember the voluptious aunty next door
My eyes till roll out when a cute , sexy gal ..pass by me.
Madhuri Dixit ..still rakes my dream (man ..i was even dancing with her once other than that ..chumma thing and so on.. )
..Hain ..Dhak Dhak Karney laga ..

Wow.. I remember quite a few of them.. my history teacher (um even now I wish I could get hold of her and that auntie who I watched getting it on (with her hubby ofcourse)... jeeze I am a pervert... Madhuri.. meri hai.. Indian bhai bilkul aise sochna bhi mat.. vo sirf meri hai... meeeeeriiiiiiiiiiiiii haiiii... and even now my eyes roll out.. etc etc.. and my wife knows all about these.. she even points out a cutie when I somehow miss noticing her..
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she even points out a cutie when I somehow miss noticing her..
So does mine. Well it depends on your relationship with your wife.Based on that I wanted to start a new thread will do that in a moment , I have to talk my boss ( No Not abt. his relationship / fantasies) . Will be back in a moment
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Madhuri.. meri hai.. Indian bhai bilkul aise sochna bhi mat.. vo sirf meri hai... meeeeeriiiiiiiiiiiiii haiiii... and even now my eyes roll out.. etc etc.. and my wife knows all about these.. she even points out a cutie when I somehow miss noticing her..
My hubby does that too!

And yes, I also point out a good looking female if I see one and tease him about it.

It is all done in fun. When you very comforatble in a relationship, such things don't hold much precedence.
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My hubby does that too!

And yes, I also point out a good looking female if I see one and tease him about it.

It is all done in fun. When you very comforatble in a relationship, such things don't hold much precedence.
dammit what is it with you today

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